Ok, many of you reading this may not be single. Or a woman. But who doesn’t have single friends we want to love well? I think this is post in our series “5 Questions About…” will be helpful for all of us. Claire Wyatt is one of my many incredibly-talented-beautiful-inside-and-out-full-of-life single friends. She writes a witty blog called Single Christian Girls. You should totally check it out!
1. What lies are you tempted to believe during this season of singleness? What is God reveling to you about his character?
One of the main lies I go to is wondering if I’m single because I’m being punished, or if God is trying to teach me a lesson but in a very vindictive sense. I have to CONSISTENTLY remind myself that God is good and that all of my sins have been taken care of on the cross. While I might be disappointed that I’m not married, God’s plans are better than my plans. Not only because he’s God, but because He knows me even better then I know myself. He also loves me even more then I love myself. If I rest in that, being single feels manageable.
2. What has been your worst experience as a single woman? Continue reading
FOMO. I just heard about this for the first time Wednesday morning on the Today show. It’s an acronym that stands for the fear of missing out. According to a new study, 56% of social media users have it.
FOMO is “a fear of one’s social standing or how one is perceived amongst peers, and a need to constantly know what is happening and what others are doing,” according to Elizabeth Lombardo, a clinical psychologist in NYC.
The study says, “The problem for people with a high level of FOMO is they may become so involved in seeing what their friends are doing and they are not, they often ignore what they are actually enjoying themselves.”
“FOMO can cause anxiety, stress and, in more extreme cases, even depression…” she says.
- Ever surreptitiously check your phone under the table’s edge in a meeting?
- Perhaps you’ve walked into a lamp pole while checking Facebook on your phone? (This may, or may not have happened to me)
- Do you check Twitter first thing in the morning before brushing your teeth?
- Are you ever more present to Instagram than you are to your kids?
- Have you been known to eat a pint of Ben and Jerry’s because you’re depressed by the wedding, vacation, or concert pictures someone posted?
What if our obsession with the lives of others, is causing us to miss our own life?
Recently I heard someone say that they like Thanksgiving much better than Christmas because at Thanksgiving the focus is on being grateful for what we have, and at Christmas the focus is on getting what we want (or maybe more accurately, on what is lacking in our lives). I hope it’s more than that, but I get what they mean. There’s a lot at Christmas that threatens our contentment by tempting us to compare and covet, not just the things others have, but their life.
It used to be at this time of year our mailbox was filled with the “Christmas Letter” from friends around the country. The Christmas letter with glowing accounts of our friends’ “best life”…the highlight reel, the “brand”…the image we want to project…
But now with Facebook and Twitter it’s possible to read a perpetual “Christmas Letter” from friends all year long. Facebook and Twitter can be awesome tools to connect us in community. But they can also be places where I covet a life that’s not mine.