“We’ve just been so CRAZY busy!”
I have a friend whose emails contain this phrase along with profuse apologies about her perpetual stress level almost every single time she writes me.
Sometimes I want to shout at the computer “Well STOP DOING so much!”
Brene Brown says exhaustion is the new status symbol. If we don’t feel overwhelmed we must not be doing something important. Are you buying into that?
I want to tell my crazy busy friend about my sister-in-law who realized that they had had so many people visiting their lake cabin over the past few years that none of their family was actually able to enjoy it. They were always hosting someone else, so she called a moratorium for this one summer. A time out. To that I say “Bravo!” It can be done.
But I also realize how hard it must be to think of disappointing friends who don’t have lake homes and who look forward to visiting every year. Boundaries are not without their downside. They take courage and resolve.
As I’ve been thinking about my friend and my sister-in-law, 5 Questions have come to mind that might be helpful to ask ourselves when we’re “CRAZY Busy”:
1. How does this level of busyness affect the state of my soul? Really. Am I at my best at these rpm’s? How much does my busyness feed my false self – the part of me that needs to be validated by my achievements?
2. Is this just a season (temporary), or is it an on-going pattern of over-extending myself?
3. Why have I said “yes” to each of these commitments? Which have I said “yes” to out of fear or a need to prove something? Examine your commitments one by one.
4. Do I have choices where I may have been making excuses? (Ex.: I have to work on the sr. high school party because I did it when our other child was a sr.)
5. Who are the right people to disappoint?
I’d really love to just sit down and have a conversation with you about this over a DQ Blizzard because I’d like to hear your thoughts too.
What do you think? Is there one person you feel like you need to be willing to disappoint in order to have a healthier rhythm of life?